I have NOT done this alone. I am a strong, feisty, smart and capable woman. Why couldn’t I just dig my heals in, make it happen, try harder?? Because at a certain point, I couldn’t see outside my own story. You see, that’s all it is. Your “I can’t” is just a story. One version, of one story, you’ve told yourself (and been told by others) for SO long, you can’t see anything else. When you can’t see anything else, you can’t believe anything else. If you don't believe it, you can’t be motivated or focused. You beat yourself up for procrastination, distraction, and stagnation. But none of this makes you weak, or stupid, or not enough. What it makes you is human. And if you’re a human, who is hungry for a life that feels like you, and the security that comes from things like retirement funds, you cannot create that new reality all by yourself.