UNTAMING THE WILD
Dimple Dhabalia
Testimonials from my amazing clients!
before
I've always done the safe thing - chosen financial stability, retirement and benefits - above everything else. Don't get me wrong - these things are good to have and I don't necessarily want to give them up - but I've been operating from a place of fear for too long and not trusting myself and what I have to offer the world. It's time to step into that so when the day comes that I'm ready to transition out of the government, I'll have done so with intention and a plan.
Ideally in the next 6-12 months I transition out of the government without burning any bridges and move into the next phase of my life and business. I'd also love to have a draft of a book completed.
After
I left my job!!!! I found some clients and actually made some money right out of the gate. I’ve trusted my intuition and turned away work, even though that’s not something you’re “supposed” to do when you’re first starting out. I’m learning to speak my truth and hold space for myself to step in my bigness - no longer waiting for others to do it for me. I’ve learned to trust my body and my energy and if I can’t get into flow or I’m just not feeling things, I’m listening to what my body is asking for and adjusting accordingly. And I'm writing a book!!!
I can finally see a life outside of the government. Even though it’s scary at times and I have no idea right now how I’m going to continue to sustain this moving forward without actively soliciting clients, for the first time I feel like I can give myself the time to figure it out - that I don’t have to do things the way everyone expects - and if anything, I’m here to show the world that there are other ways of living and being in this world.
Sarah Harney
Before
I want focus and clarity. I can still feel myself being torn or scattered. Or going with 'shoulds' rather than my desires. Finding a way to let SEH the VA support and live alongside The Self Adventure. Finding a way to make enough money to sustain life plus invest in TSA. Deep down I know its THE thing but how do I let myself lean into that whilst also being savvy business lady. I mean they are the same thing... Gosh mindset work to do! I'll know I have achieved what I wanted when I've reached my income goals, I feel clear and focused, and I've launched the first product of TSA.
After
Well I have a successful business! And I have clarity on what I offer and reworked it multiple times getting closer and closer each time. I can now see a life where my abundance and my ideas can co-exist. I remember what it feels like to be in charge. I am not taking care of everyone else first. My partner is her own entity and I am my own entity. A lot more feels possible. I have learned how to harness my brain and my time and my momentum. I am going easier on myself. I am handling hard conversations better. Especially when it comes to money. I can calm myself faster and see a path more quickly. I have changed my environment, my crappy relationships, my freedom. I allow good things to happen to me. I allow myself to rest.
Annette Flynn
Before
I just feel like there has got to be more for me to do. I'm bored. I have 2 master's degrees. I am unfulfilled professionally. I want to earn more money. I want to hone in on what I can do that both fulfills me professionally and yields financial freedom for me and my husband. I also have uncertainty around my job in the church. The UMC may be undergoing some radical changes in 2019 which could leave my husband and I with out jobs, or at least with some very interesting choices to make.
After
I immediately noticed the positive difference in my self after committing financially to this process. I had a sense of "I'm worth this." I saw internal results right out of the gate. The way you showed up for me was exactly what I needed - you allowed me to be me, you saw me, and that was transformational. Your transparency about yourself and your journey were instrumental for my journey too. Being able to leave RUMC with a sense of completion and finishing strong there was a significant accomplishment. To be able to decide to leave and be moving toward something and not running away from something was huge.
Lindsey Depledge
Before
I decided to invest in working with you because I knew I needed to add something/some change to my life right now. I wasn't exactly clear on what (coaching/etc), but I saw your Facebook post and it just felt right. All of it. I think I want to achieve clarity in my decisions coming forward, and how to take steps and actions to the beginning of what I choose to culminate. On an obvious level, I am graduating college and have a "menu" of options on the table. However, I know that I can always stay in the same place doing something similar, but that is not what feels right. I want to take advantage of my time (on Earth in general), but also this time specifically as I see it as a critical and exciting time. I am seeking change to find out what I really want out of my life moving forward.
After
Because I originally came regarding decision making, I have seen the most change there. I have definitely been living by my own voice, and found it easier to find and listen to. I also don't really seek out speaking to others immediately when I am making a decision or a choice because I realize that that just makes things more confusing and muddled altogether. I am also seeing a big difference between myself and other graduates. I find myself more grounded, trusting, optimistic, and also living an epic life in comparison to others who have not grown. Or, relating to people who are my age and still in school has become difficult because they just put up with the status quo. I guess I also see a big difference in being more than ok with wanting what you want, in being able to go after it, and manifest it - that nothing is really too big it just takes bit by bit. A lot of my mentalities towards the future have changed as well as living up to "shoulds".
Jordin James
Before
The part of me that is afraid I will dissociate from my life and my purpose wanted to hire you to keep me accountable to thrive. I also want to unburden myself from the old "rules" of life -- all the things I believe I "should" be and "should" do -- and embody new rules that serve me better. I know I'll have achieved this because I will be sustained by my own attention, I will know my inner voice and trust it so much that I follow it in each moment. For the first time, I will be living my life in my own skin, and it will be more than enough.
After
Our work together has been a big spark in helping me get to another level in my business, if not profitability-wise, mindset-wise. I've worked through a whole lot of emotional baggage during these 6-months related to my worth and business that was necessary for me to fully face before moving forward. This coaching container has been a sacred container for that inner work that needed to happen, with a little bit of outer work thrown in there. On top of that, raising my rates from $500 to $3,500 was a big deal, as well as landing a client at the $3,500 rate.
Meredith Marder
Before
I am ready to make a major change and finally do work that nourishes and engages me. Continuing to plan this exit/pivot/next step by myself hasn't been working for the past 8 years -- I'm ready for professional guidance and the commitment that investing this money represents. I've really struggled with the investment piece of it; in part, because it's a lot of money for Evan and I right now, and in part because I know that if I invest this money, I have to commit to making the change. Continuing to succeed and draw a paycheck at the law firm is definitely the more comfortable option. But it is a waste of my life, a suppression of my true self. I need to take the leap, and soon. (Thanks for pushing me to make the full 6-month commitment.) If I reach the end of my life and the best thing that can be said about me is that I was the best corporate attorney in Tucson, or Arizona, or the Southwest -- I will have WASTED MY LIFE. That's the easy path. "Successful private attorney" is easy, obvious, and boring.
After
OMG, where to start... I quit my soul-sucking job at a private law firm and went out on my own to become the entrepreneur I've always dreamed of being. And not only am I now self-employed, but I have the clear vision of how I want to FEEL in my life, so that I can continually say "yes" to things that increase and amplify those feelings and say "no" to the (many things and seemingly shiny opportunities) that don't. The process of discovering my CDFs and our work together helped me hone my tuning fork, so that I can more easily see what the things are that amplify my vibrations and--in some cases, suddenly, blindingly--realize how many things in my life DON'T (or didn't). Now I have energy and a drive to pursue what is possible that I didn't before. Now I have clarity about what possibilities I want to pursue (building my empire! making my legal skills accessible to the inspired entrepreneurs who need them! encouraging others to lead from a place of strength and love instead of fear and negativity!) and which possibilities are lovely but ultimately will not bring me joy.
Kristin Mott (doesn't want her name used)
Before
Something is profoundly wrong with my life. Feeling very little joy in my home and especially work life. When I engaged with you was feeling some optimism that things were bubbling up for a change. But, more recently cycling back into victimhood and fear. I want a clear vision and action plan to getting on track personally and professionally. I want to connect with that spark inside that is telling me there is sooo much more out there for me. I can't endure the status quo any longer.
After
Wow! I am sitting in my new office, current headquarters of Amberlake Capital. My company! I just sent my wire instructions so I will actually get paid. I love coming to work, love the work I am doing and can see a clear path to having a significant impact on my clients' and helping them achieve their goals. The toxic state of my being under my old structure is so clear now. I could see it before, but couldn't see getting out of it. Now that it is behind me, can't figure out why I let it go on as long as I did! I am in control. I am confident that I am really good at what I do! I am tapped into my power.
Chris Kresser
Before
I'm here to ensure that the decisions I'm making now about the next 10 years come from my heart and intuition and not just my head. I want to develop a clear path forward for the next few years that inspires and excites me, reflects my deepest values, serves my own mission and purpose and that of the company, and serves the personal and professional development of my team. I'm aware that I'm entering a new cycle. What I've been doing for the past few years is still "working", but it's out of sync with what is current for me. The most pressing unresolved question is how I will shift my clinical work with patients. I'm not yet sure that I want to end it completely. Success will feel like renewed passion and engagement in my work; more time, space, solitude, silence, rest and fun; a new role where I am free to gestate ideas, establish the vision, write, and lead.
After
I launched and then decided to shut down A180H. I started my clinical sabbatical, which evolved into a broader sabbatical where I've taken considerable time off of "work". I have made significant progress on the 4BQ, choosing to focus the future direction of the company on health coaching. I've also stepped further into the Visionary role. I've deeply appreciated your clear reflection, "unconditional positive regard", and wise insights. You've helped me to navigate a complex and difficult set of circumstances to arrive at more clarity for what I want the next 10 years to look like. Although the exact details aren't yet 100% clear, I now have a vision for the next chapter that I believe will not only be more satisfying and rewarding for me personally, it will also address the intractable challenges the business has been facing. The transition from here to there will be challenging, but when I think of what's on the other side, I feel a huge sense of relief.
Jon Humberstone
Before
I need to focus on me - a lot - right now. It is the time for it and I can tell that you operate from a place where self-trust is prioritized and I want to trust myself more deeply. Call it intuition - or call it confidence. I want stronger self-advocacy. I want to prioritize myself - meaning pushing through my deeply ingrained servitude mentality. I want support in making decisions more quickly in a business setting that are more deeply connected to MY heart and gut-trusting my experience rather than being filtered through my fears about other people's feelings. But I also want to find a way to be 'clean' and not take responsibility for other adults' emotions while not being unnecessarily provocative, cruel or unfair. Bringing more clarity to my vision at work for myself and for the company is also important to me as well as accessing my inner enthusiasm. That part of me that has been hammered into a more boring, appropriate, subdued, logical expression. I want to get back to more of the 7 year old in me who used to run around the house singing opera at full volume.
After
I've been able to more consistently pull myself out of a fearful, lack-based mindset. I've been able to open the door to trusting myself a little wider. And I had the support I needed to make choices and take actions that were scary and that I may not have taken on without this support. The shift from a habit of presenting problems and feeling powerless to solve and decide on my own, to a new, very effective approach of presenting solutions first. You helped me value myself enough to ask for the raise I thought I really deserved - and get it. If not for your support, I think I would have ended up settling for 20% less money. You've helped me with my original goal of strengthening my connection with and trust in that 'golden thread' of intuition. I grew up with NO "gut feeling." I was actively taught to mistrust myself. In the last (what? 2 years?) I have become a person who has ready access to a 'gut feeling' about 60% of the time instead of 0%. And, even when I don't have access to it, I trust that it exists. I can't tell you the difference it makes, not only in my work, but in my personal life, to have confidence and trust in myself - in what is coming from/through me.
Steven Blondo
Before
I've been told by a number of people (including employees) that my business needs help. I didn't realize how "stuck" I had become, constantly working in triage mode for so long until I reached out to you. I'm looking at improving the overall structure of the business to allow us to grow or at least to become more efficient and happier (less stressed) in what we do. I want to learn to let go of what I don't need to be involved in. Plan and stick to a work flow that best utilizes each employees strengths and frees up my time to focus on what running the business needs. I also want to better describe and express the company culture for marketing (social media, Facebook, SOQ) and employment advertising, and daily work operations for all employees. I'll know I have succeeded when I have more free time to work on business development, I hear positive responses from employees and clients, I see an increase in productivity and efficiency, and I feel less stressed and they will as well.
After
Systems and procedures are in place and we're working on continuously improving on them. Our workload has picked up and we're hearing about our reputation to do good work from new clients. Mission/vision/values have been defined and written down and we're continuing with progress on the employee handbook as well as starting to define roles/expectations of myself and employees. Coming together as a company family, hearing each other, supporting each other, and establishing procedures and a plan for our future has been such a huge accomplishment. Knowing that I can take a breath and things will be accomplished right even when I’m not involved was big a relief. Seeing the company continue to operate while I was out due to a death greatly increased my confidence in being able to be absent and not take the whole business down.